Posts by termite 35

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Know anything about the law and abusive relationships?

by Brummie in

a couple have a stormy relationship, the girl has a few affairs, both seperate on and off during which time the girl phones the guy to tell him which man she is sleeping with that week.

they have children even though both are only in thier early 20's.

the children are being put in danger because the mother is sleeping with druggies who smoke around the children.

termite 35

Sorry Brummie; when you said;

'they are in their early twenties' I thought you meant the kids

Our equivilent of Tex's child protective services is Social Services - they would asssess the conditions the children live in- they may also place them on an 'at risk' register.The police may investigate drug posession and use; and will also inform Social Services. After that, it is'nt up to you any more...

Maybe a good solicitor is the best idea at the moment at least your brother would'nt have to feel threatened by his wife as regards the children. Until he is prepared to stand against his wife it dos'nt look like anything will change for him.

By the way- someone was sent to prison in the UK for 5 years today for sending insulting and threatening text messages...

love and all the best; termite

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Know anything about the law and abusive relationships?

by Brummie in

a couple have a stormy relationship, the girl has a few affairs, both seperate on and off during which time the girl phones the guy to tell him which man she is sleeping with that week.

they have children even though both are only in thier early 20's.

the children are being put in danger because the mother is sleeping with druggies who smoke around the children.

termite 35

Hi Brummie; sorry to hear of your brother's problems at the moment.Everything sounds rather messy for them

Throwing the phone book and barring her from leaving the house was stupid and has unfortunately left him open to the type of action he will now face. It was'nt self defence, but a lack of control that caused him to lash out; where will it lead/what will he throw next time? a fist? a knife? This has to stop now.

You say he has never reported the texting to the family to the police; but although abusive , it is not the same as becoming violent - (did she ?) I can see how her behaviour has led him to become unbalanced and desperate for answers, but it sounds to me like they are both unwilling to face the inevitable.

I wonder what her reason for taunting him is if she occasionally wants to hook back up with him? I'm assuming she's doing all this to hurt him as she has the power over his emotions- but why ? Perhaps she is seeking validation through a string of affairs.Was she always like this?

If it was my brother I would get him into councelling so he could learn to live without her and he can then become the adult in this co-dependant abusive relationship, after all; one of them needs to be. What she does is then up to her

.As for the 'children' , could they not decide where they wanted to live? If their mother's lifestyle dos'nt suit them or hurts them they are old enough to see it and act.

I hope everything works out

I do not know about the sentence the police can hand out- but someone I will not name did get an injunction for a situation similar to this - the police did'nt continue as the charges were dropped- now they do seem more keen to refuse to see a distinction between violence and a 'domestic,

Your brother is lucky to have you Brummie; I hope it all works out in the end for him.The wife does sound a bit of a shrew to put it mildly...

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New Hampshire JW Child Abuse (Berry) Court Case Hearing Coming Up

by blondie in

http://www.nashuatelegraph.com/main.asp?sectionid=25&subsectionid=377&articleid=80032

hearing slated for suit against church

sunday, may 11, 2003

termite 35

What courage you both have to go through this again -

I was wondering about those who refuse to believe that this happened and that it continues to happen;

printing this out and sending it to congregations or posting it up outside of them may be an eye opener for the public and also some within, and may just affect someone's concience -

I certainly will

anyone else?

If we post this info around as and when it comes up we can show that this problem is huge and is'nt going to be allowed to stay relatively hidden.

If not for this site I would'nt know about a court case in the USA. . . .

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Proud Dad

by Yesterdays Child in

yes yes yes last night my daughter graduated from nursing school .

i met her when she was 8 years old and her brother was 3. they are now 23 and 17. they have been great kids and love me .

it made me feel so good inside to see her on that stage .

termite 35

What a great day for you; congratulations to your daughter on all her hard work and to you for a parenting job welldone

Shame it was marred by the appearence of Grandma; though going to a Cathoilc Church and spending the afternoon with ' Satan' for her Grandaughter is something my ex-jw-friends would never do .

You say you may have 'done the wrong thing' by declining to eat with her etc; I don't think so. The shunning situation is unique to us and noone can expect more of you than to deal with things as and when they happen - you just have to do what feels right at the time. It may make her realise that in life you have to give and take if you want a relationship to continue.

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what are your special powers?

by SpiceItUp in

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friends

back when i was younger every dream i would have would come true.

it kinda freaked me out since they were not always good dreams.

i don't remember too many of my dreams anymore but a couple weeks ago i did and it did partially come true the very next day.

termite 35

Glad to hear others have this kind of experience too.

I find it all at best, interesting; and at worst, frightening.

Being able to 'know' others' perception of me can be upsetting .

Having a sense of unrefined dread then waiting, and wondering what will happen and to whom can be unnerving.

That happens alot, but why is it always very bad news or the death of someone and not anticipation of something happy ?

I have also heard my children cry out my name when something's happened to them -it is really loud, but right in my ear, almost within it; I always log the time when that happens (after frantically trying to reach them at school or where ever) and something has happened to them at that time - luckily nothing serious so far.

The phone calls happen all the time- I pick up the phone before it rings if it's my sister, it used to happen with my mother when she was alive too.

In fact, It's all a little annoying as it's like a game that you don't want to be involved with - but you have no way of leaving the play.

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Gangs and Dubs

by Farkel in

gangs start training their children to be gang members at the earliest possible age.

dubs start training their children to be cult members at the earliest possible age.

it is fairly easy to get into a gang.

termite 35

An ' Infection' of Witnesses ?

( unpleasant; usually caused through baptism waters, can be contagious, usually passed on through close contact; can leave scarring of the heart and feelings of weakness and listlessness - cure ? plenty of rest, relaxation and education )

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shepherds of the flock...not

by searchfothetruth in

just reading 'in search of christian freedom' and come across this quote which seems to hit the nail on the head regarding the genuine love among the elders.:.

" whilst serving as an elder in the warrenton, virginia congregation, i went with the presiding overseer to investigate an alleged indiscretion reported by telephone from the elders of a neighboring congregation about an elderly, inactive, widowed sister, living in yet another congregations territory, taking care of a comatose old lady for her livelihood.. when we arrived, he questioned the sister about her supposed indiscretion ( the charge was based purely on conjecture ).

her reply was, "it has been over seven years since my husbands death.

termite 35

They popped round pretty sharpish when I let it be known that the UN and paedophile stuff was the reason I would'nt attend anymore.I had all the proof for them, layed out on the table- the elder spent 10 mins or so in my sitting room while the 2 women I studied with kept me in the kitchen (I only realised what was going on later with that one ! ) he refused to look at any of it even though I pointedly asked him to many times...then told me what he thought I should do was to pray with a very specific time limit in mind eg one day .and by then ( if I was honest hearted ???!!! ) my answer would come and i'd have no more doubts!!!!!!!!!!!! I told him i'd come back when they'd got rid of their paedophiles and the elder who caused me so much trouble apologises...; he said he'd keep me informed and keep all my UN stuff for 'reference'(?) and I never heard from him again. Hope he found it useful.Apparently his worldly brother had already sent it to him from abroad; was that one of you ?!

I got an invitation to the memorial this year - but it was posted through the door along with a Watchtower, it was the only contact in all that time apart from chance meetings on the street - i'm still waiting for my apology from the elder who caused me so much trouble- I may have to write to him again with some more well chosen scriptures for spiritual ingestion and contemplation just to bump it back to the top of the congregational most -annoying- past- member- list

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Did anyone ever fall asleep on you in service?

by Jayson in

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friends

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i'm thinking of doing this if i get dinged again.. .

zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.

termite 35

This should be in the Adult section Jayson

the answer is , never ; and if they did I would have woken them up to finish what they'd started

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Center Parc Meeting Point Condemned by JWs Elders....

by nightwarrior in

jw
friends

well maybe many in the us have not had the pleasure of the center parcs.

vacations.

sub tropical, scantily clad people.. but here in the uk and europe... we know all about them,...... especially if you are a jw.... once a year, in fact the week just before xmas, the jws descend in hordes on the different center park locations dotted around the uk - eg - sherwood and elvedon.. well if you want to see jws have a good time, book now!

termite 35

Well, and I thought my ex- friends all went there for their little slice of paradise on earth

I'd love to book up that week one year, take some candid shots of hypocritical elders falling off the spititual wagon and post them outside the KH with added captions

The adverts do liken Centre Parcs to a paradise...those witnesses seem to be showing us 'bird-foods' what they want life to be like in the New System - i'm really glad I don't qualify anymore !

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I had a crappy day today- this helped...

by termite 35 in

a friend texted this to me today.... a man took his wife to the doctor to be checked out as she was feeling unwell.

after examining her he took the husband to one side and sighed, ' i'm afraid it's very serious; your wife has either aids or alzheimers .. ' that's terrible ' exclaimed the man, 'but how will i know which one she's got?'.

' oh, that's easy enough sir, just put her on a bus and if she comes home, don't shag her'

termite 35

Hi Just2laws, hope your DFing was a cause for celebration and has'nt made any relationships worse.Can't share unfortunately- much as i'd love too,it's a bit public here, maybe by the time I see you it'll all be resolved and i'll have more good days than bad.Thinking you often and hope to see you soon.x

Simon and Angharrad, well, arn't we organised! It'll be lovely to see you both again I can't wait

Latte will you be able to make it too? it's a long way,but it would'nt be the same without youI'm not too bad thanks- today is a little better- i'm off to the park for a game of footie with my son and the sun is shining- other problems will sort eventually; hopefully,but i'm trying to get on with being happy in the meantime.

Qwerty;Are you ok? Hope your day got better for you, email [email protected] if you want it...x

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